When it was announced that NFL player Trayvon Diggs and dancer Joy Chavis were expecting a baby, social media exploded with opinions. Today, we’ll explore why this situation seems like a recipe for disaster. And before Bow Wow jumps in with his usual comments, let’s just say we’ll pass—no drama needed here.
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One major issue people have with this situation is that Joy was 33 when she started dating 23-year-old Trayvon in 2022. While their age gap isn’t as wide as the one between Draya Michele and her new boyfriend Jaylen Green, people still criticize Joy for pursuing a younger athlete. What they overlook is that both Joy and Trayvon are adults capable of handling their own decisions and consequences. Besides, Trayvon isn’t some naïve, inexperienced young man. When he and Joy began dating, he was already a father of two children by two different women. Oh yes, he was quite the busy man! We’ll dive into that drama with one of his baby mamas shortly.
At the time they met, Joy was also a mother of two by different men. She welcomed her daughter, Shai Moss, with Bow Wow in 2011, and her son, Hendrix, with rapper Future in 2018. Let’s break this family tree down a bit more. By the time her new baby arrives, Joy will be a mother of three children by three different men, and the new baby will have several half-siblings. And for those who dislike the term half-sibling: if you don’t share both parents, you’re half-siblings, period. That’s how they became the ghetto bunch. The ghetto bunch. The ghetto bunch. That’s the way they became the ghetto bunch. Unless these men decide to get snipped soon, the number of children in this tangled web will surely grow over the years. Time for some snips, gentlemen!
Why would an adult knowingly get involved in such foolishness? Honestly, we don’t have the answer to that. What we do know is that we’re more concerned about the kids in these situations. Here at RRG, we’re not just about gossip—we like to mix in some research and statistics so our viewers can get the real scoop on the messy topics we cover. Take Joy and Trayvon, for example. They’re thinking about having another child amidst their tangled web of relationships. Let’s look at a study by University of Wisconsin sociologists Marcia Carlson and Frank Furstenberg. They explored multiple partner fertility (MPF), which means having kids with more than one partner. MPF is more common among low-income, less-educated people, Black non-Hispanic men and women, those who grew up in single-parent households, and fathers who have been incarcerated.
Studies show that having children with multiple partners can negatively affect child well-being. When parents have kids with different people, it can be tough for them to be fully present and effective parents. Moms, in particular, often feel more stressed and are more likely to experience depression. The challenges of co-parenting and dealing with an ex’s new partners can add to the stress.
Researcher Cassandra Logan found that men who have children with more than one woman often struggle to balance their financial, social, and emotional responsibilities. Another U.S. study found that children living with half-siblings tend to have more behavioral problems compared to those in households where all the kids share the same parents. This might be because these kids see their parents’ relationships change frequently. They often witness new partners coming and going and have to move and adjust to new schools and environments more often.
Considering these challenges, it’s essential to focus on the well-being of these children and provide them with the stability and support they need.
Joy has long been rumored to have an intriguing personality. When Young Berg, also known as Hitmaka, joined “Love & Hip Hop Hollywood” in 2014, he was dating Joy, and the show filmed some scenes with them as a couple. However, Hitmaka later told The Jasmine Brand that Joy was fired from the show because she was too boring. This would suggest that Joy is low-key and unproblematic, but according to some people in the industry, she’s quite the opposite behind the scenes. Buckle up, because here’s the drama!
When Bow Wow, the father of Joy’s daughter, was engaged to Erica Mena, Erica accused Joy of causing havoc in their relationship. After Erica and Bow Wow broke off their engagement in 2016, Erica blamed Joy for ruining their relationship. She took to Instagram, claiming that Joy always wanted to be the main woman in Bow Wow’s life, and even having a baby with him didn’t secure her that spot. Erica alleged that jealousy drove Joy to use her daughter as a pawn, saying, “She plays innocent for the public but is the biggest mess of us all. I had to deal with stalking and late-night texts from her begging Bow Wow to leave me while we were in bed together.”
Many people doubted Erica’s claims until Bow Wow weighed in. In a Vlad TV interview, he admitted it was tough seeing Joy and Erica at odds. Joy didn’t want her daughter around Erica, forcing Bow Wow to make difficult choices. He said, “I’m not choosing anything over my baby. There were times I felt cornered and had to choose, and that didn’t sit well with me.” It seems Joy’s alleged meddling played a part in ending their relationship. Joy later appeared on “Growing Up Hip Hop” with Bow Wow, but they repeatedly failed to reconcile. Let it go, girl. Damn!
In 2017, Joy was one of Future’s backup dancers, and by September, rumors started flying that Future was getting close with her. When this news hit the internet, people couldn’t help but wonder if Joy had a thing for Ciara, since Ciara had also dated Bow Wow and Future before Joy got involved with them. By July 2018, things took a dramatic turn. A blogger leaked some DMs allegedly from Joy, where she planned for the blog to post footage from her New Year’s celebration with Future, claiming her iCloud had been hacked once it went public. In these messages, Joy reportedly shared details about her relationship with Future, insisting she was the one he truly loved and dismissing another woman named Brittni, who has two children with him. Joy even allegedly called Future’s other children “disgusting mistake kids.”
When the messages went public, Joy took to Instagram to call them fake, saying someone was trying to ruin her reputation. She wrote, “That post is nasty, and anyone who knows me well knows I would never do something like that. I don’t even speak that way, nor am I that type of girl.” Despite her denials, the drama continued. Future got back with Brittni, and Joy announced her pregnancy in June 2018. In August, Brittni released an audio recording of Future saying he and Joy had always been just friends and that he didn’t love her the way he loved Brittni. He said, “I don’t look at Joy the same way I look at you. Joy and I have always been friends, super cool. I never loved her like that. She knows that. I never told Joy I love you. But we had a good friendship.”
Despite all the drama, Joy gave birth to their son, Hendrix, in December 2018.
In September 2021, she jetted off to Italy for a project with Diddy. The two were caught kissing passionately on a yacht, sparking rumors of a romance. It seems like her project was more about “Swapping Spit.” The situation was further complicated because Diddy was entangled with Yung Miami of City Girls at the time and was also Bow Wow’s boss. That’s right, Bow Wow has been signed to Diddy’s Bad Boy Records since 2015. Once the photos surfaced online, Yung Miami unfollowed Joy on Instagram, and Bow Wow had a stern talk with Diddy about breaking the code of conduct. But let’s be real, Diddy has never been known for adhering to any code of conduct or morality, allegedly.
Joy didn’t speak about the incident until months later. She explained that during their business trip, they shared a kiss. She emphasized that she had her own room the entire time and that Diddy was respectful to her as a friend. She added, “The kiss shouldn’t have happened, but it did, and there’s nothing I can do about it.” Well, you could have kept your lips to yourself, both up top and down below. That’s what you could have done. Joy also mentioned that Yung Miami was aware of the project because she had mentioned it to her. However, Joy claimed she didn’t know the details of Diddy and Yung Miami’s relationship because she doesn’t keep track of who is seeing whom. So why mention the trip to Yung Miami if you didn’t know she was involved with him? Sounds like a cover-up!
Meanwhile, Trayvon welcomed his son Aydin in November 2016 while he was an 18-year-old college student at the University of Alabama. The child’s mother, known as Sierra Danielle on Instagram, is quite the looker. In 2020, Trayvon was drafted by the Dallas Cowboys in the second round of the NFL draft. In February 2021, Instagram influencer Yasmin Lopez posted a photo of herself and Trey Songz in their bedroom attire. For context, Joy dated Trey around 2009. It seems like these celebrities just pass their partners around. Yasmin was already pregnant when she posted that photo with Trey. She gave birth to a baby named Chosen in August 2021, and Trayvon is the father. Unbelievable, right?
In the spring of 2022, Yasmin showed her support for Joy by promoting some of her fitness products on Instagram. Joy even offered to send Yasmin some free products. According to DMs shared by The Neighborhood Talk blog, Yasmin and Joy had a friendly relationship on social media. On September 27th, 2022, Trayvon helped Joy celebrate her 34th birthday. Yasmin, suspecting Joy’s astrological sign, remarked, “A damn Libra, sis. I knew it. I can smell the Libra all over her.”
However, when Yasmin found out, she was livid. She noticed Joy had left a comment on her friend’s Instagram photos and replied, “You weird as fuck. LOL. Under my friend’s post but with my baby daddy. Weirdo.” Despite their cordial interactions online, it was clear their relationship was strained.
As of now, Joy and Trayvon’s relationship has been rocky, filled with breakups and makeups. They’ve taken vacations to exotic locations, gotten tattoos of each other’s names, and Trayvon has surprised Joy with expensive gifts. However, they’ve also unfollowed and refollowed each other on social media countless times. Shortly after her former friend Draya announced her pregnancy, Joy revealed her own baby bump on Instagram on March 14th, 2024. Two weeks later, she announced she was expecting a baby girl. Unlike Draya, who shared her news alongside her partner Jaylen, Joy made her announcement solo, suggesting Trayvon was already out of the picture.
Given the on-again, off-again nature of Joy and Trayvon’s relationship, their current status is uncertain. It seems like they’re off again. Celebrities and social media users have mocked Trayvon for getting Joy pregnant. On an episode of “It Is What It Is,” Cam’ron criticized Trayvon and other men in the industry for being with the same women, saying, “I ain’t into that. You know what I’m saying? Once you got Bow Wow and Future, and you don’t know who she dated. This is just the babies. I can’t get with that publicly on that level.” Trayvon, apparently upset, responded on Twitter not by expressing excitement about his third child or defending Joy, but by making fun of Cam’ron’s age, writing, “I was five when you was rapping. Ain’t no way you speaking on me right now, young ninja.” This weak comeback only highlighted his inability to handle the situation maturely.
Joy must have gotten fed up with all the negative comments flooding her Instagram. Underneath her gender reveal post, she clapped back with, “I wouldn’t trade lives with any of you, even if my life depended on it.” Honestly, same here. We don’t want your life either. She also added another comment saying she’s not perfect, but at least she can take care of her kids on her own. Even though Trayvon signed a massive $97 million deal with the Cowboys, and her other kids’ dads are famous, a lot of people think Joy is just using her uterus as a cash machine. But she’s made it clear over the years that she doesn’t get any child support from any of the fathers. RRG can even confirm there are no open child support cases against her in California.
So, if it’s not about the money, why does she keep putting herself in these situations, having kids with men she’s in casual relationships with? Does she think having a baby will make them want to settle down and marry her? Is she just being unrealistic? We might never know, so maybe we should just mind our own business and wish everyone involved the best.
But seriously, are you going to drag them through the mud the whole video and then wish them well? Y’all are so messy, and I love it.