Matt Barnes’ Cheating Scandal: Love, Lies, and Leaked DMs
Matt Barnes is making headlines again, but not for basketball. This time, it’s all about cheating allegations involving his fiancée, Anansa Sims. Tasha K and Jason Lee from Hollywood Unlocked put him on blast, and now the drama is spilling all over social media.
A Long History Together
Matt and Anansa go way back—like, all the way to 1998 when he was balling at UCLA. They stayed friends for years before things got romantic around 2017. Not long after, they had their first baby in December 2018. But by the end of 2019, Anansa found out Matt was cheating and dumped him.
That should’ve been the end, right? Wrong. Somehow, these two found their way back to each other. By Christmas 2022, they were engaged. Maybe therapy helped, or maybe they just couldn’t let go. Either way, they were back together and trying to make it work. They even had a second baby in October 2024. But here’s the kicker: no wedding bells yet.
Here Comes the Mess
This week, a 27-year-old woman named Zany spilled the tea with receipts: messages from Matt back in 2023, where he was allegedly trying to meet up. The texts were flirty, with Matt supposedly getting excited when she said he was only five minutes away. There might’ve even been a cheeky photo exchange, and let’s just say it involved preferences—like, chicken wings, thighs, and all that.
Once those messages hit the internet, Matt wasted no time responding. He recorded a voice memo going off on Tasha K and Jason Lee, throwing shade about their looks and reputations. But instead of clearing his name, it just made things messier.
A Pattern, Not a One-Off
This isn’t Matt’s first run-in with cheating accusations, and people aren’t buying his excuses. He’s claiming, “We weren’t even together then,” but fans are side-eyeing him hard. Even if they were on a break, why does it look like he couldn’t wait to step out?
And what’s with being on a break, anyway? Aren’t you supposed to take that time to figure out your relationship, not hit up someone new? For many, it’s giving “hall pass” energy, and that’s not sitting right with anyone.
What’s Next?
The couple’s reality show, The Barnes Bunch, debuted in 2024, giving viewers a peek into their lives. But with this latest drama, who knows if a second season is even on the table?
Alright, here’s the situation—they’re living together, blending their families, and now he’s proposed. They’re engaged. But he’s still out here entertaining other women. Allegedly, of course, but come on—the DMs don’t lie.
Fellas, why is it so hard to settle down?
I mean, I already know the answer, but I’m just putting it out there. There’s this whole mindset in dating where people act like there’s always something better out there, so they refuse to fully commit. I even heard one guy say he didn’t understand why he spent so much time chasing women because, at the end of the day, it’s all the same.
Why are y’all so convinced there’s something magical out there? Like, if all boxes have four sides, they’re all still just boxes, right?
And let’s talk about her for a second. Why is she putting up with this? Why is she having babies with a guy like this?
Here’s the backstory: both of them have been married before, and both have kids from previous relationships. He has twins with his first wife, Gloria, and two kids with her. She has five kids—three from her first marriage and two with him. Maybe they’re just scared to get married again.
But here’s the thing—if you’re already doing all the “married stuff,” why not just make it official? At the end of the day, you’ve invested so much time, and what do you have to show for it? Nothing. Not a thing. Sure, you might not need alimony or child support now, but what happens if you do?
Oh, and speaking of child support—did you know only 20% of cases actually get paid? So why are men always complaining about it when most aren’t even paying in the first place?
But let me switch gears for a second because, yeah, I’ve been going in on the guys, but some of y’all women aren’t off the hook either.
Here’s the thing—some of y’all are just as messy. You see a man with a woman, and suddenly you want him too. You’re out here entertaining him, knowing full well he’s got someone at home and kids with her.
Look, if a guy tells you he’s single, okay, maybe you take him at his word. But when he’s a public figure, and it’s obvious he has a whole woman and family—what are you doing sliding into his DMs?
“Well, if I don’t, someone else will.”
Well, let it be someone else. Don’t be the one who’s out of line. Don’t be that person—can I say the b-word? Probably not, so we’ll just leave it at that. Don’t be that trifling.
Sorry to the editor.
Some of you women really need to stop. You won’t go after men who are actually single, but in your heads, you think, “Oh, here’s a guy who’s committed to a woman, raising kids together in a home. They’re not married, but they’re engaged. If he’s doing that for her, maybe he’ll do it for me.”
So, you slide into his DMs, thinking you can get him to cheat.
At that point, he’s no longer the good guy. Once he’s flirting with you, sneaking around with you, and things get physical—it’s over. The loyal, committed image you had of him? Done. And that’s all on you now.
I honestly don’t get why some of you think a single guy is somehow better. Maybe he’s just avoiding drama—and you seem to love it. Maybe that’s what you’re looking for.
But anyway, looks like he got caught red-handed.
Now, unsolicited advice (you didn’t ask for it, but I’m giving it anyway): Leave that man alone. Let him be. He’s not trying to change, and he’s not going to. He’s out here thinking he can do better, so let him try.
As for you? Move on. Focus on your kids. Five is plenty. You’ve got a lifetime to be a mom. Babies aren’t accessories. You can’t just have them and keep living like you don’t have responsibilities. Your kids need you now. When they’re grown, maybe you can do more of what you want.
And Matt? You should be mad at yourself—not at the people calling you out. They’re just doing their job. That’s what they do. Don’t get upset with them for telling the truth. Just get it together.
And remember, we’ll be watching. Hopefully, Anansa knows enough to walk away and leave you behind.