Remember Erica Mena and Safaree Samuels from Love & Hip Hop? Their rollercoaster relationship gave us marriage, two kids, a messy divorce—and now, Erica is airing out some serious grievances. She’s accusing Safaree of not seeing their kids for six months.
Here’s how it all started: Erica dropped a bombshell in a comment on The Shade Room, saying:
“Before I walk into 2025, I promise you all will know the whole truth, and it won’t be edited, fabricated, or fake stories either.”
We’re listening, Erica!
Let’s break it down. The two got married in 2019, split in 2021, and officially divorced in 2022. Recently, Safaree opened up during an interview with Gucci Mane’s wife, claiming he’s been unable to see his kids because of ongoing legal issues with visitation rights. According to him, the situation is “unstable,” and he’s been working with lawyers to fix it.
But Erica isn’t buying it. She fired back, calling him a liar and accusing him of being absent for half a year.
And this isn’t the first time things have gotten messy. Erica’s previously criticized Safaree for what she says is inadequate child support. Meanwhile, Safaree stirred up even more drama back in October when he posted a video showing Erica hitting him in front of their kids. Erica clapped back quickly, defending herself and calling his motives into question.
It looks like this story is far from over. Buckle up, because there’s definitely more tea on the way!
“There you go posting videos from 2023, but in May 2024, you were begging me to take you back. If it was so traumatic, why were you on my Ring camera from May 4th to May 7th?”
Whew, Erica came with the receipts, Safaree! You might not want her pulling out any more of those receipts, my guy.
According to Erica, Safaree was practically begging her for another chance. She even said, “Make it make sense! If it was so traumatic, why are you dodging your kids?”
Clearly, the tension between these two is still on ten. And honestly? Airing it all out on social media isn’t helping—it’s just making everything messier. But, hey, we’re not complaining. Bring the drama to the timeline! We’ll sit here with our snacks, scrolling and minding y’all’s business.
Now, Erica has three kids—two with Safaree and one from a previous relationship. Her first baby daddy tragically passed away, so it’s just her holding it down for all three. And these two kids with Safaree? Lord, the drama is already in full swing, and the oldest isn’t even five yet!
Listen, Auntie Regina always says, “Know who you’re dealing with before you start shacking up, making babies, or walking down the aisle.” Too many people think, “Well, we had a baby, so we might as well get married,” but marriage is so much deeper than that.
If you barely knew each other before the baby, and things are falling apart now? Step one: therapy. And not just couple’s therapy—individual therapy. Everyone’s walking around with some kind of baggage. Childhood trauma, family issues, insecurities—it all shows up in relationships if you don’t deal with it.
The thing about therapy is, it’s not magic. It’s a process. It’s hard work. You’ve got to do the homework, sit with the uncomfortable truths, and actually grow. Therapy gives you the tools, but you have to use them.
And honestly, therapy is getting the respect it deserves now. Mental health is real. Understanding your own behavior is real. If you don’t know how to handle life’s challenges in a healthy way, you end up toxic—and that toxicity spills into your relationships, your marriage, and even your parenting.
So let me say this: if you’re in a relationship or a marriage and haven’t been to counseling, go. Even if things seem good, therapy can make you stronger as a couple and help you avoid repeating mistakes. And if you don’t vibe with the first therapist? Try another one. Therapists are like restaurants—if the food isn’t good, you don’t go back. Same with therapy.
Okay, back to Erica and Safaree. These two? They need serious help—but separately. Trying to work things out together right now would just be a blame game. They’re way too far gone for joint therapy.
They need to take some time apart to focus on themselves. Heal individually. Figure out their own mess. Because let’s be real, we’ve all seen Erica’s fiery personality, and Safaree knew what he was signing up for. But Safaree? You’re not innocent either.
At the end of the day, the real losers in this situation are the kids. Hopefully, Erica and Safaree can get it together for their sake.
Look, I’m not even going to bring up the colorism, but Erica has a lot going on. When someone’s carrying that much pain, it’s hard to make room for anything or anyone else. They want to be married, they want compatibility, but their hurt is taking up all the space in their heart.
They’re closed off, always blaming the other person. The smallest thing will send them into a spiral. I’m not saying this is exactly what’s happening with Erica and Safaree, but it’s obvious that they both have issues and are triggering each other.
To those of you in stable, loving relationships—drop some wisdom in the comments, because you know I’m not wrong here. Some of you might be thinking, “Why can’t they just get it together?” It’s because they’re constantly triggering each other.
People who’ve figured out how to make relationships work know how to avoid triggering their partner. They’ve learned how to communicate in a way that builds love and trust. Erica and Safaree need to get there, too—especially for the sake of their kids. They need to put their personal stuff aside for now.
Now, just because they don’t get along doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. I actually think they do love each other a lot, which is why they keep coming back to each other. But their wounds run deep, and they need to heal them.
And I’m not talking about just slapping a Band-Aid on it. You know, there’s still a lot going on under that Band-Aid. Those wounds need to form a good, solid scab and heal properly. Once it’s healed, they can think about what’s next. But until then, they need to focus on co-parenting, not each other.
Erica, let’s be real—you’re the reason he’s not coming around to see the kids. We’ve all seen it. If you really wanted him to spend time with them, you’d make it easy for him—for the kids’ sake. Does he need to step up? Yes. But he’s probably terrified of you.
You need to create a safe space for him to visit with the kids. The issue is that you want to work on your relationship while he’s there, and those are two separate things right now. The kids should come first.
Remember what Auntie Regina said: It’s the kids first, everything else second.
To everyone in loving relationships—what do you think? Help me out here!